What is love?

Last month was the "love" month! Many of us celebrated the "Hallmark" holiday of Valentine's Day! The following three lessons are on the true meaning of love. I pray that these lessons will encourage as you realize that you can find true and unconditional love in God.


Lesson One
Title: Where is the Love?


Theme: The mark of a Christian life is to be love! We are called to love because Christ first loved us.

Scripture: 1 John 4:11-14
“Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has seen God at any time. If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us. By this we know that we abide in Him and His in us, because He has given us His spirit. We have seen and testify that the Father has sent the son to be the Savior of the world.”

1. If we know and love God how should we act?


2. What has God given us to abide (live in) us?


3. God sent Who into the world to be the Savior?


4. Does your life reflect your walk with Christ?


According to verse 12 the only way the world will see the love of God is if the people of God are a picture of love. If Christ is the center of our life than love will be the fruit that is seen by the world. A life led by the Spirit of God will show the love of God to the world.

Galatians 5:22 states, “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.”

5. List all the words that describe the Spirit

6. Do you have these qualities in your life?

7. Which ones do you need to work on?


John 15:5 states, “I (Christ) am the vine, you (Christians) are the branches, he who abides in Me and I in him he bears much fruit for apart from Me you can do nothing.”

8. Who is the vine?

9. Who are the branches?

10. How can we as Christians “bear fruit”?


Read John 13:34-35, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another even as I have love you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”

John 15:12-13, “This is my commandment that you love one, another just as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this that he lay down his life for his friends.”


11. How have you shown love to those around you?


12. What may you need to “lay down” in order for those around you to see Christ in your life?


Read the words of the lyrics to,

“If We are the Body”
It's crowded in worship today
As she slips in trying to fade into the faces
The girls teasing laughter is
carrying farther than they know
Farther than they know
Chorus:
But if we are the body
Why aren't His arms reaching?
Why aren't His hands healing?
Why aren't His words teaching?
And if we are the body
Why aren't His feet going?
Why is His love not showing them there is a way?
There is a way
A traveler is far away from home
He sheds his coat and quietly sinks into the back row
The weight of their judgmental glances
Tells him that his chances are better out on the road
Chorus
Jesus paid much too high a price
For us to pick and choose who should come
And we are the body of Christ
Chorus
Jesus is the way



Lesson Two
Title: Fearless Love

Scripture: 1 John 4:15-18
“Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him and he in God. We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. By this, love is perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgment. Because as He is, so also are we in this world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love.”

1. How can you have God in your life?

2. God is what?

3. How can you have confidence on the day of judgment?

4. Is there fear in love?

5. What does perfect love cast out?


God is love. As Christians we have God living in and through our lives. We should have love in our hearts and demonstrate it with our actions and lives.
First Corinthians 13:4-7 states, “Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous. Love does not brag and is not arrogant. Love does not act unbecomingly, it does not seek its own, is not easily provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered. Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things.

6. What traits of love do you need to work on?

7. Do you demonstrate these “love traits” to those around you?


There is no fear in love because there is no judgment in love. For all who abide in God’s love there is no reason to fear. Through Christ we have the power to love the unlovable because His love is our power. When we truly experience the love of God there is no reason to fear.

Read John 15:8-11

“My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be My disciples. Just as the Father has loved me, I have also loved you, abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love just as I have kept My father’s commandments and abide in His love. These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you and that your joy may be full.”

8. How is God glorified?

9. How can we be full of joy?


In His earthly ministry when Christ was asked, “What is the greatest commandment,” Jesus answered, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul and mind and to love your neighbor as yourself.” Everyone around is our neighbor. It does not matter whether they are just like us or very different. God has called us to love those around us, not because it is easy to do but because we need to demonstrate God’s love in our lives.





Lesson Three
Title: Lover or Liar

“Share the Gospel always, use words only if necessary.”

Scripture: 1 John 4:19-21
“We love because He first loved us. If someone says, “ I love God,” and hate his brother, he is a liar, for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen.?

1. Why do we love God?

2. If someone says he loves God but does not love those around him, what is he called in this scripture passage?


3. Give an example of a time when you DID NOT show love to those around you.

4. Give an example of time when you DID show love to those around you.

Actions speak louder than words. We cannot love God without loving people. The way that we demonstrate God’s love is to show that we love people regardless of who they are or what they have done.

Read 1 John 2:4-6
“The one who says, “I have come to know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar and the truth is not in him. But whoever keeps His word, in him the love of God has truly been perfected. By this we know that we are in Him: the one who says he abides in Him ought to himself walk in the same manner as He (Jesus walked).

“If you are going to talk the talk, then you better walk the walk”

5. Give an example of how you can “walk the walk” when it comes to your faith and love in Christ.


Read: Matthew 5:43-44
“You have heard that it was said, You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I say to you love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”

6. Who does God command us to love?

7. Give an example of when you had to “love your enemy/enemies”?


Read: Leviticus 19:18
“You shall not take vengeance, not bear any grudge against the sons of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself, I am the Lord.”

8. What does God command us NOT to do?

9. What does God command us to do in this passage?


10. Why is it hard not to hold a grudge or take vengeance on those who have hurt us or someone we love?

11. Give an example of a time when you had to love your neighbor and not take vengeance.


Read: Matthew 22:37-40
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the prophets.”

12. How can you love the Lord with all your heart?

13. How can you love the Lord with all your soul?

14. How can you love the Lord with all your mind?

15. Give an example of how you can you love your neighbor as yourself?

16. Are we showing that we are a lover of God because we love people or are we showing that we are a liar because our actions do not line up with our words?